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Beliefs That Put The Brakes on Your Love Life
| Dating and living single can be tough and if you're having trouble attracting the right kind of partner or even attracting a date, your beliefs could be putting the brakes on your love life. |
| So many of us have been hurt by past relationships that a part of honestly questions whether or not it's worth getting involved again. After all, what if it happens again? Nobody wants to be rejected and nobody wants to feel they are alone in the world. It's a pretty profound dilemma..."Should I put myself out there and risk getting my heart broken again or should I resign myself to a life alone?" Honestly, neither choice sounds too appealing but what you need to examine is why it's easier to believe that the next relationship will bring heartache like the others than it is to believe that the next one will bring you decades of bliss.
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| My experience has been that most people carry around a lot of baggage from past relationships. There are so many fears and worries that what happened "last time" will happen again and though there is reason to shy away from the possibility of another painful break up, the simple fact is the past doesn't dictate the future. The relationship you will be entering into next will not be (most likely) with the same person you broke up with before. This is a new person with new qualities, ideas, beliefs, values, desires, etc. To project the last relationship onto this one is to immediately doom it to fail. Even though it can be hard to do, you have to stop assuming and expecting and, instead, begin seeing this relationship for what it truly is and not what you're afraid it will turn out to be.
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| So let's take a look at and address some of the emotional baggage that is setting up brick walls on your road to romance. We're going to be using EFT for this so if you need instruction on this process, please visit this page |
| I'd like you to bring to mind a past relationship where you were hurt. Now tap the PR (Karate Chop) Point repeatedly while saying the following: |
| "Even though I was really hurt by this relationship when _________(state his or her name) hurt/upset me by _________(mention what happened that caused you that hurt. There may be many things so you might want to do this multiple times with different issues) I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway. Even though my heart was broken and I was hurt so much in this relationship and I don't ever want that to happen again, I deeply and completely love and accpet myself and I forgive (state his/her name) because he/she was only doing the best he/she could with what he/she knew at the time. Even though I don't want what happened last time to happen again and the only way to guarantee it doesn't is to stay out of a relationship, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway." |
- Top of the head- I was really hurt in that relationship
- Eyebrow- My heart was broken
- Side of the eye- I don't want to go through that pain again
- Under the eye- I'm safest if I don't enter another relationship
- Under the nose- How do I know it won't happen again?
- Chin- There are no guarantees
- Collar bone- What if the next one is just like the last one?
- Under the arm- I've never had good results with relationships
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- Top of the head- But the next one doesn't have to be like the last one
- Eyebrow- The next person I get involved with could be nothing like my last relationship
- Side of the eye- The past does not have to dictate the future
- Under the eye- I've learned from my past relationships
- Under the nose- And I'm more aware of what type of person I'm looking for
- Chin- This new awareness will make it easier for me to find Mr./Miss Right
- Collar bone- I choose now to be open to a happy and loving relationship
- Under the arm- I deserve a happy and loving relationship now
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| Take a deep breath and relax. Now think about starting a new relationship and see if you are more open to the idea. If you like, you can go back through the process and change relationships and painful experiences to more fully clear your emotional blocks. |
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